By Susan T.
Money is a leading cause of relationship tension and conflict because it is often emotionally charged. Those who grew up in disadvantaged circumstances tend to have a stronger focus on saving money than those who have always had financial security and are accustomed to spending freely. When such people get together in a relationship and eventually marry, they may struggle to adapt to each other’s approaches to handling money.
It is essential to discuss and understand your partner’s “money personality” when planning for marriage and to agree on a financial style that works for both of you from the beginning.
It is important not to assume that you will automatically be on the same page when it comes to money matters; discussing your goals and priorities and being willing to compromise on personal and short-term goals while still maintaining your self-esteem.
Differences in financial style can arise even when both partners want the same thing, such as a new TV for the living room. One partner may feel comfortable using a credit or a debit card to purchase the TV at a big, expensive store, while the other partner may prefer to save money by shopping at a small, less expensive store. It is important to remember that it is okay to want the best for yourself and your relationship as long as it is within your means and does not put undue strain on your finances. It is not worth sacrificing your financial stability in the long term for short-term desires.
Ultimately, money does not guarantee a perfect or secure relationship. It is not money that makes or breaks a relationship, but rather our attitudes towards it and how we handle it. How we prioritize money and allow it to make decisions for us, as well as how we value it relative to our partners, can significantly impact our relationships.
It is essential to be mindful of money’s role in our interactions and decision-making and avoid letting it become the primary means of communication or a factor in choosing a life partner. Money can be a source of evil and conflict in relationships, so it is essential to be aware of its potential impact and to handle it with care.